It seems everyday I turn on the T.V. or go online or read a newspaper I see a new study that was done by some college or government agency. In every one of these reports I read about the doom and gloom of our society. Divorce statistics, teen pregnancy statistics, unemployment statistics. It seems to be never ending. I could get high cholesterol from eating eggs, oh no wait they changed that one. I could lose weight by drinking diet pop (artificial sweeteners are better than sugar and lower in calories), oh wait they changed that one too. Fat on meat is bad for you, they go back and forth on this one.
You see my point? It doesn't matter what the stats say now because sooner or later they change them. If I went by stats in my life my husband and I would have about a 150% chance of divorce. I was 20 when we were married, already divorced once, had a child from a previous marriage, had divorced parents of my own, didn't graduate high school and so on (and that’s just on my side lol). According to all those studies my marriage was doomed before it ever begun. But here I am almost 15 years later still deeply and passionately in love with my husband.
If I went by stats in my life my daughter wouldn't be graduating in 3 weeks (because I didn't finish school), wouldn’t be going to college on a scholarship (again because I didn't finish school and didn't attend college) and would have at least one child of her own (because girls of teen moms are more likely to be teen moms themselves).
I choose not to live my life by statistics and instead concentrate on working on my life, my marriage and my children. It doesn't hurt that I am stubborn and if you tell me I can't do something I will show you that I can lol. By having open communication in my house we have continually let our kids know that no subject is taboo and discuss it all. Open communication in my marriage makes it possible for my husband and I to continue to have a strong marriage. Letting our expectations of our children be known to said children helps us all obtain our goals.
It's real easy to get caught up in the studies and statistics that everyone puts up and in some cases freak cause now they are telling us we are doing something else wrong in our lives. So whats the solution? Take every study you read with a grain of salt. Remember everything in moderation. Listen to your own common sense and judgment (it's usually right lol). And when it comes to raising a family have open communication. Let your kids know that is okay to talk to you about anything. There may be times you don't like what they have to say but you are their teacher and your opinion is one of the most important in their lives.
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